Addictions & Compulsive Behaviour


by Sean Redmond


Addictions and compulsive behaviour are different but the common factor is that a person has either lost control or has insufficient control over the activity or behaviour. There are emotional factors underlying both these areas and it’s these factors that are addressed by MEM.


Addictions to substances (such as tobacco, nicotine replacement products, alcohol, drugs, certain foods) or to behaviours (such as gambling, sexual activity, inappropriate eating, computer gaming, shopping) have their origin in an emotional pain or unmet emotional need. While there are physical factors once a substance addiction has taken hold, the original cause is emotional and this is often overlooked.


If we find that a cigarette, an alcoholic drink, a bar of chocolate, a shopping spree or whatever it may be relieves our emotional pain then we come to associate that substance or behaviour with feeling less pain. Every time the emotional pain or unmet emotional need presents itself, even though we might not be consciously aware of it, we turn to the substance or behaviour that made us feel a little better last time. The more we use substances or behaviour in this way, the more psychologically dependent on them we become and addiction can result.


Addiction happens when we lose control over our use of a substance or our engagement in a behaviour. The substance use or behaviour takes on a life of its own and the balance of control tips in its favour and we no longer have control over it. Even when we’re fully aware that an addiction is having detrimental effects on our physical health, our relationships, our finances or our life in general, deep down we still see it as preferable to the emotional pain that we’re unconsciously seeking to alleviate through use of the substance or behaviour in question.


MEM addresses the underlying emotional patterns and once these have been resolved the need for use of a substance or behaviour to numb the pain can simply fall away. MEM tips the balance of control in your favour, putting you back in control of your use of a substance or behaviour rather than it being in control of you. This might not necessarily manifest in you becoming teetotal or never eating chocolate or gambling again, although you might decide to choose such an outcome. The important thing is for you to be placed in control so that you have the freedom to make a conscious decision whether or not to use a particular substance or engage in a particular behaviour rather than being driven to do so by unresolved unconscious factors. MEM aims to restore your freedom of choice by redressing the imbalance in control between you and the substance or behaviour.


In this area MEM can only help those people who genuinely want to become free from addiction and are willing to take responsibility for making a change in that aspect of their life. No one can be forced to change if they don’t want to. Similarly, MEM can only help when someone wants to become free from addiction for themselves and for their own reasons rather than being pressured into seeking help to satisfy someone else’s needs or demands.


As with addictions, compulsive behaviours (such as nail biting, hand washing, hoarding, checking) have emotional factors underlying them. Addictions usually involve some pleasure, whether real or perceived, derived from the use of a substance or engagement in a behaviour, whereas compulsions tend to involve behaviour that has no such pleasurable element and the person is driven to behave in a particular way by other factors. This drive/compulsion is often an unconscious coping response to an underlying anxiety, fear or negative self-belief, which can have its origins in an emotionally distressing or traumatic event in the past. For example, a core belief ‘I’m never good enough’ stemming from traumatic childhood events might manifest as compulsive hand washing or compulsive cleaning.


Although we can’t change the past, we can change how past events are still affecting us now. MEM addresses the underlying emotional patterns – anxiety, fear, negative self-beliefs – with a view to removing the driving forces that are behind the compulsive behaviour. As with addictions, the aim is to put you back in control so that you’re no longer controlled by unresolved unconscious factors.



Copyright © Sean Redmond . August 2014 / All Rights Reserved


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