by Sean Redmond


There’s virtually no end to the number and type of negative, false and/or limiting beliefs that we’re capable of having about ourselves. Some of those more commonly seen include:
• ‘I’m not good enough’
• ‘I’m not worthy’
• ‘I’m guilty’
• ‘I’m powerless’
• ‘I don’t deserve good things in life’
• ‘I’m ugly’
• ‘I’m wrong’
• ‘I’m unlovable’.


The common factor underlying all such beliefs is that they stem from an upsetting or traumatic incident at some point in our life, something painful that happened to us that caused us to make a negative decision about ourselves. Once such a decision is made it comes up again whenever we’re faced with a similar situation to the original upsetting events and through repetition it eventually becomes conditioning or programming. It becomes so ingrained in our consciousness that we come to believe that it’s true and that it represents who we really are.


At the time we make these decisions we’re not acting consciously because we’re in the grip of an upsetting or traumatic event, so we unconsciously make negative decisions about ourselves and then our survival instinct comes in and we develop behaviour patterns that are designed to protect us from experiencing pain in similar circumstances in the future. They may look like non-survival behaviour patterns but they’re actually pro-survival from the point of view of our traumatised self. When we’re on the receiving end of something traumatic we only see how it makes us feel. We don’t see the wider factual circumstances because we’re so overwhelmed by our negative feelings in that moment.


For example, if we experience rejection as a small child we might interpret this as meaning ‘I’m not lovable’, from which we build a survival mechanism that works by lowering our expectations of our ‘lovability’ in order to avoid experiencing that rejection again. If we operate on the assumption that we’re not lovable then it reduces the chances of re-experiencing the pain of being made to feel unlovable by someone else. So, in effect, we say to ourselves: ‘If I be unlovable all the time then no one else can make me feel unlovable again’. It’s almost like a ‘pre-emptive strike’ – we reject ourselves first to prevent someone else doing it to us and causing us pain.


This process seems illogical but in fact it’s a very effective way of protecting ourselves from a repetition of the pain that we experienced in the original traumatic event. The trouble is that we can end up becoming identified with the limiting beliefs formed in situations like this. They stay with us into later life, long after the original traumatic events have passed and the need for those psychological defences is no longer present. They become part of our psychological makeup, lying deep in our unconscious and operating like negative programs just waiting to be played out over and over again whenever a situation triggers them.


When limiting beliefs are operating in us we can find ourselves trapped in self-sabotaging behaviour patterns that repeat over and over again, behaviour that’s beyond our conscious control and which can severely affect our performance and limit our ability to achieve our full potential in any area of life. It’s as if we’re always battling against ourselves and we’re unable to function at full capacity. Life can become an uphill struggle.


MEM can be used to address any type of negative, false or limiting belief that you have about yourself, without the need to analyse its origins or how it manifests, as MEM works on the emotional patterns underpinning the belief. Life doesn’t have to be a struggle and when we deal with the self-sabotaging beliefs that are limiting how we operate in the world we clear the way for our life to flow with more ease.



Copyright © Sean Redmond . July 2014 / All Rights Reserved


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